Master These Skills To Build Healthy Relationships

Relationships & Family Blog

Maintaining healthy, balanced relationships isn't easy for everyone. In fact, it's common for people to have trouble connecting with their partners, making friends, and socializing. Fortunately, improving your interpersonal skills helps you recognize unhealthy relationships and build positive ones.

Communication

Effective communication plays a huge role in a healthy relationship. People who don't communicate well with each other often have trouble resolving issues, and they tend to argue more than those who do communicate well. Whether you're communicating with friends, family members, or your partner, it's important to be open, honest, and direct.

Typically, there are a few behaviors you need to avoid to make for effective communication:

  • Blaming the other person for any wrong doing.
  • Being determined to get your way all of the time.
  • Making the conversation solely about your needs.
  • Being unappreciative.

Remember, the goal of the conversation is to resolve the issue by compromising with the other person. In order to do that, you need relay your message in a positive light. If your negative points outweigh your positive points, the conversation will turn into an argument.

In fact, research shows that it takes five positive statements to make up for one negative statement or action you make in a relationship.

Empathy

In order to have a healthy relationship, you need to take the other person's feelings into consideration, and learn how to express concern when needed. In order to become a more empathetic person, you need to improve your listening skills. It's common for people to tune others out. However, when you aren't truly listening to what the person has to say, your response or concern may not be portrayed as genuine.

  • Be aware of your actions so that you begin to recognize when you're tuning people out.
  • Focus on what the person is actually saying instead of assuming that you know what the person is going to say next.
  • Pay attention to your body language when you're talking to people so that they know you're listening. For example, face people when they are talking to you so that they know they have your complete attention or lightly pat people on the back to show concern.

Stand Up for Yourself

Even though it's important to be flexible and consider the feelings of others, you shouldn't have to compromise your own beliefs or values to make your friends, family members, or partner happy. A healthy relationship isn't about one person's happiness. It's about the happiness of both individuals in the relationship. So, you need to learn how to be assertive when necessary, and remember that it's okay to say no.

While improving these three skills will make a huge difference in your relationships, they may not solve all of your problems. If you continually find yourself in unhealthy relationship, you should consider seeking advice from a professional relationship coaching.

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