Adoption is both a rewarding and challenging process. This is true for both the adoptive child and any existing children you have in your home. If you've started the adoption process and have other children in your home, it's important that you are preparing them for the arrival of their new family member. Here are a few tips to get you started.
It's not necessary for you to share every single thing about the adopted child's background with your existing children, but you do want to be upfront and honest. Don't wait until the last minute to tell your child that you plan to adopt. Let your child know about your plans as soon as you begin the process.
Especially if the adopted child is older, explain to your child that their new family member may have had to move several times before coming to your home and that it's very important to make them feel loved and welcomed.
Consider Your Children When Making Living Arrangements
Make sure you aren't making living arrangements for the adoptive child without first speaking with your existing children. This is particularly important if you want the children to share rooms. It's a good idea to speak with your children first to ensure they are comfortable sharing their room with the child.
If you simply force the child to share the space without taking their input into consideration, this could cause the child to feel like their privacy is being violated and that their opinion doesn't matter. If your child doesn't want to immediately share their space and you have the option to make other arrangements, don't force your child.
Reassure Your Children
You also want to reassure your child before the adopted child enters the home. A common fear children have is that they will be forgotten and that the new child will get all the attention. Taking the time to address these concerns with your child will give them the confidence that your love for them won't change, which is very important.
This is also a good time establish a schedule by which you will spend alone time with each child. Even if it's a short walk in the park, this alone time can make your child feel loved and appreciated. Make sure you are also carving out a time that will serve as the adopted child's alone time.
The more effort you put into preparing your existing children for the arrival of the adopted child, the more you can ease their fears. Make certain you are making it a priority to prepare your family for the arrival of the new family member.
For more help with adoption, visit a website like http://www.achildsdream.org.Share
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